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Philippa Perry in Conversation

What gets in the way of a good connection with our children? How much does our own upbringing affect our parenting?

Join psychotherapist and bestselling author Philippa Perry as she faces head-on our relationships with our children, concentrating on what really matters and what behaviour to avoid, doing away with the notion of the ‘perfect’ parent.

In conversation with BBC 5 Live broadcaster and TV presenter Nihal Arthanayake, they’ll explore ideas from Philippa’s Sunday Times number one bestseller.

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did) analysed how strong and loving bonds are made with your children, and how such attachments give a better chance of good mental health, in childhood and beyond. Together we can learn not just to love our children, but to like them too.

Perry answers your parenting questions, making for an uplifting and reassuring evening packed with sage and sane advice.

Philippa Perry is a psychotherapist and author. She has presented several documentaries including The Truth about Children Who Lie for BBC Radio 4, Being Bipolar for Channel 4 and How to Be a Surrealist with Philippa Perry for BBC Four.

As well as continuing her psychotherapy work with an organisation called Talk for Health, Perry is also an agony aunt for Red Magazine and contributes to The Guardian newspaper.

Most recently, Perry featured in highly popular dating show Celebs Go Dating for E4, where she used her expertise to give the single celebrities love advice.

Nihal Arthanayake is a radio broadcaster, podcaster, TV presenter, documentary maker and former Radio 1 DJ specialising in Asian beats.

Arthanayake has played DJ sets at festivals like Glastonbury and Womad in Singapore, and clubs everywhere from America to Zimbabwe. He hosts his eponymous daily show on BBC Radio 5Live and a weekly phone in show on the BBC Asian Network.

With all of his broadcasting work he still finds time to host the Penguin books podcast having interviewed in the last 12 months alone a range of authors including Sebastian Faulks, William Boyd, Baroness Helena Kennedy and Marlon James.

Arthanayake has won a number of awards for his broadcasting including two Asian Media Awards, two Sony Awards and most recently the BBC Radio and Music Awards 2019 for the Interview Of The Year.

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Queen Elizabeth Hall


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For ages 16+

Copies of Philippa Perry’s new book (RRP £12.99) are available for £8.99 when you buy a ticket to the event, to be collected at the event. The author will be signing books after the event.

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